Comments on: Telegraph Article: People like me don’t cry; we just carry on by Benjamin Fry

By: Ben

Ben — Fri, 27 Apr 2018 13:58:34 +0000

HI Benjamin,

I am in all of your ability in articulating your story and want to thank you for sharing it. I have a client that has showed me your article and told me he can relate to the early part of you journey, working to complete Post induction therapy with me and feel in touch with his humanity, reducing the carried shame and feeling from his childhood trauma.

I have a very similar recovery story with the opposite start. Your story reinforces my understanding, giving me the a strong message regarding our ‘being’ and that regardless of where we come from we are all imperfectly perfect.

Thank you, this is a gift

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By: Martin

Martin — Tue, 18 Mar 2014 21:48:54 +0000

thank you Benjamin, for your frankness in sharing your experiences. As a mental heath worker myself who is currently processing my own experiences of early and later life trauma, part of my anxiety about returning to work is the stigma attached to mental and emotional health difficulties. I believe that it is important to erode this stigma, and to contribute to a more helpful understanding of such experience. My sense is that your transparency can only help this process.

By: Laura

Laura — Sat, 15 Mar 2014 20:43:55 +0000

Thank you. I’m going to have a good think about it all. Good luck with your book.

By: Benjamin Fry

Benjamin Fry — Sat, 15 Mar 2014 15:32:35 +0000

In reply to Suzanne. Thank you for letting us know. I'm glad you are finding the help you need.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Fri, 14 Mar 2014 22:55:29 +0000

I am undergoing sensrimotor psychotherapy treatment as I found a local therapist. I am working through processing past trauma. I can only liken it to mindfulness and processing whats ” stuck” and experiencing discharge ie shaking etc Its a slow process for myself and taking things steady. I feel some improvement so far. I am spacing the sessions out also due to affordability. Its not cheap but it is worth it.

I trained in therapy and currently work with a caseload of 70-80 people seeing 26 people weekly . I am more of a life coach teaching cbt techniques. I did question whether I could manage this and carry on with the work. I seem to be managing so far. I see a lot of people with elements of frozen trauma and I would be interested in going into the field at a later date. I do want to reduce my workload soon but my work pays for my therapy and the bills!

I have taken myself out of having any romantic relationships at the moment whilst I do the therapy. I see family and friends but I have distanced myself even more from people for the time being.

I can relate to your relationship difficulties.

I can put my hand on my heart and say it is a worthwhile process with anyone looking to undertake it. Its going to be a lifesaver for me. Ive made myself so ill in the past from anxiety and reduced the effectiveness of my immune system.

Thank you for being open and honesty Benjamin.I would not have got onto this path if I had not seen the Mail on Sunday article last year.

By: Benjamin Fry

Benjamin Fry — Fri, 14 Mar 2014 01:08:05 +0000

In reply to Laura. Well it depends what the issue is, but there are allot of on-line resources if you Google them. You can do a Skype assessment with us too, but we prefer to work with a person in the room, because it is after all a 'body' therapy.

By: Laura

Laura — Thu, 13 Mar 2014 16:52:32 +0000

Dear Benjamin,
Thank you for your reply, I find any piece of information very useful. I am very very drawn to your clinic but like I said its a bit difficult when your doing it alone. You can’t just pop to therapy without anyone knowing, you know? What are your thoughts about online therapy? And is it something your place would think about doing in the future? It’s just so we know there’s somewhere we can go and just talk and lesson the burden so no one else need know. I think mines got to the place where I’m at the brink of bursting of needing to talk, But I (we) just can’t tell anyone, it’s impossible infact. Can you imagine how difficult that is? The frustration eats you but you can’t show it. I do have a good life (which you did too!) but no one really knows what goes on in my head (again, like you)
So, what needs to be kept in mind and thought about (from someone who knows) is that there should be somewhere we can go (online) to and talk without disclosing it to our nearest and dearest because at the moment there is nowhere!
It’s great for those who can just get up and go, I’m actually jealous because “we” can’t. What a shame.

By: Benjamin Fry

Benjamin Fry — Thu, 13 Mar 2014 02:57:01 +0000

In reply to Laura.

Funnily enough I was just talking about this at lunch today on an equine trauma therapy course that I am doing in Arizona! The key point here is that “trauma is in the body, not in the event”, which means that it is in your body right now, not in the past located in the event.

Unfinished business stays unfinished and affects the way we respond to everything else in our lives, today! Therefore if you want a better NOW, then you sometimes have to complete was is left unfinished from THEN.

It’s great that your life is going well, because that makes it easier to finish up these things in your nervous system. If your life is robust then you will be more so too, and this shouldn’t be a big drama to get out of the box and be done with. The goal is to really leave it in the past, both in mind and body, so that you can go forward living as if it is a memory, not a recurring event.